Have been delaying the development of this Series for a long time, matter of fact, a really, long, long time… The basis of it stems from two different peoples statements about life in general, which are interestingly enough tied to the Bible – both of these men based it as being so. Of course, there will be some push back, which is the reason for the delay – because we are in such a religious environment of folks saying “don’t worry about what everyone else says, you do what you are led to do”. Before all the defenses go up, understand that a lot of homework has gone into this one and the only reason it is even seeing the light of day is because of the Holy Spirit convicting me over it. Many GREAT people in the Bible got led to places and doing of things that were NOT pleasing to the LORD their God.


First | Let’s Take A Look At The Statement

The name of this Series is actually the punch line, which only contains words that have single syllables – learned something a long time ago about writing and the power of presentation, there need not be any $100 words be used, no matter how technical the presenting item may be – because it must be understood in the end. Here it is:

“Be Real The First Time”

Most often we are only going to get a single opportunity (vs a chance, rather they are Divine appointments, not happen chance) to be the witness that we need to be to folks we are completely unaware are watching. We most likely will never know the impact we make on others when we don’t understand that we may be their only, or last even, hope at that moment to have the miracle of being a Christian placed before them. Somewhere along the line we each may have heard something like “we may be the only Jesus they every see”, that is the concept attempting to be conveyed here.


Second | Let’s Take A Look At Who’s Watching

We are accountable – whether we be a Christian lay person, a Sunday School Teacher, Group Leader, Church Worker, Christian Day School Staff or even the Pastor of a Church – the higher the responsibility, the more severe the accountability gets – where much is given of him, shall be much required. A verse of Scripture that many Christians can quote from memory is:

“…For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more.”
Luke 12:48b | King James Version

Take a look at the color of the letters from that verse… Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ was speaking those words and He is the one I’m pointing your toward in the convincing of Who is watching. Those others, any person on this earth that would look upon us, should see clearly – not perfectly, for we are yet sinners in this body of flesh – that we are One of His, a sheep listening to the Master Shepherd – the Lord. They may not understand the “Who”, but I’ve got enough experience to know that complete strangers, who are not Christians and readily profess they have no faith whatsoever, can tell a Child of the King from even a group that is not.

A few of the most harrowing words in the Scriptures are the ones in Acts 26:28, for they are words that even without uttering them, are most grievous to the Holy God of All Creation:

“Then Agrippa said unto Paul, Almost thou persuadest me to be a Christian.”
Acts 26:28 | King James Version

By our very actions and words, or the lack of either of them, have others been at that “almost…” place, but could not journey on because of something that we have done? Those individuals are everywhere – family, co-workers, those traveling down the road in rush hour traffic, at the grocery store, when we are out to eat, while we are shopping – really in any place we find ourselves, what are they seeing? They might see that pretty Church license plate tag on the front announcing what church we attend or some bumper sticker we have on our vehicle, but wonder WHO has stolen our car by the way we act sometimes…


Third | Life in General Statements

My Dad gave me the first statement in quite the annoying manner which didn’t dawn upon me how foundational it would become in my life. This statement, for anyone that knows me or has been around me any length of time, is so simple and contains a life lesson in the explanation:

“Perception is Reality”

Seems innocent, right? The grit comes in the details…

What a person Perceives as being Real is Reality for them.
More often than not, even if what Really happened is proven to be utterly False,
It is next to impossible to Change that person’s Perception of what Really happened.

Now, of course, we cannot go around attempting to fix every person’s view of what we’ve done, said, not done and not said – that is NOT what is being talked about here. Our motives for doing things need to be constantly evaluated as to be in alignment with God’s Will for our lives and our seeking through Him to do all that He wants us to do for Him and ourselves. We have to evaluate how what we do will be taken by others who will see us day-in and day-out and make sure that we are not becoming a stumbling block to others, even if what we are doing is not sinful or against any kind of rule or law. I Peter 2 | KJV addresses this clearly. Our conversations MUST be honest as Matthew Henry points out in his commentary on the chapter.

But one MUST also take into account I Corinthians 8 | KJV, as the final verse gives us clearly a defining consideration for ANY individual, no matter of position or placement.

“Wherefore, if meat make my brother to offend, I will eat no flesh while the world standeth, lest I make my brother to offend.”
I Corinthians 8:13 | King James Version

The second life statement is:

“There is Such a Thing as Honour”

My Grandpa Turner was a man of VERY few words, but honor was a core principle of his – if you said you were going to do something, he expected you to keep it, by whatever means was necessary. Three chapters in the Bible share with us that charge and principle, Romans 12 and Romans 13, interestingly enough notice they follow each other – then we should consider I Peter 2.

“Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;”
Romans 12:10 | King James Version

“Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour.”
Romans 13:7 | King James Version

“Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king.”
I Peter 2:17 | King James Version

Only the direct verses have been listed here, but they can be found in this Series under the Study tab. Really, to get the full grip of the context, the entire chapters need to be applied to this topic.

This concept of “honour” is one of making a declaration, a promise to carry something out or complete said agreed upon item not just merely because it was said, but because all parties agreed to it in good faith and made of those involved their reputation by declaring it so as the Lord gives it to be.


Fourth | Being Real

For many Christians that are personally known, they generally have in the top five (5) things in life they want to be remembered by the item of “being real”. What they might not realize through, is that the Lord God and our Saviour see us as we really are, always. Added to that, a lost and dying world is by FAR more discerning than we have given them credit for being – for we have something they want, if we will JUST be honest about it. It is how others come about saying “you seem so calm”, “I don’t know how you are handling all this stuff that is going wrong” and my personal favorite “You must be a Christian because…” with a listing as to what quality they have see portrayed out in front of them. We sometimes miss the factor that the Holy Spirit is not just working in our lives, but also in the lives of others around us, without either of the people realizing that working is being constantly organized and culminated so we can ONLY attribute it to Divine Intervention, not anything on our own parts.

We very much have not only the responsibility but also the duty to make certain that what others see of us is Honoring our Creator God, our Lord Jesus Christ and points to our Holy Script, the Bible. Yes – what people do with things that they “think” they are seeing being done, or have perceived someone of saying or actions that are not being taken for whatever reason, is not something we can chase down – but our EFFORT should be placed in bringing Honour to our Creator, not skepticism and reproach. When we fail to properly represent Him, we are doing just that – bringing reproach upon our God, Our Saviour, Our Salvation.


Fifth | The Choice Of Words

Included in this list are the fourteen words used in this Series considered in the development.

  1. Given
  2. Honour
  3. Render
  4. Love
  5. Brother
  6. Chosen
  7. Abstain
  8. Honest
  9. Service
  10. Prove
  11. Faith
  12. Cleave
  13. Peace
  14. Walk

Being Real the First Time will cause SO many of those issues to be kept at bay, allowing us to be the positive Christian witness in all areas of our lives that we are supposed to be!

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